[MT] Re: Network: Creating the Perfect Statements, II

In a message dated 11/17/1999 7:33:40 PM Atlantic Standard Time,
hypno_at_san.rr.com writes:

> Well, it will resonate for some, and it won't for others'. But if you're
> trying to get rid of the problem, why do you want to own it? There's a
> difference between taking responsibility and owning, isn't there? I
> wouldn't get too hung up on this, Silvia, simply don't use the approach if
> it doesn't work for you. I won't be insulted : - ) Love, Steph

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to this list but couldn't help jumping in here. I and many
therapists I know actually use the terms "taking responsibility" and "owning
one's stuff ," interchangeable. The latter term was coined by Fritz Perls of
Gestalt fame and I suspect he meant claiming or owning our stuff as the
opposite of denial.

The other take I have on this phrase "Don't own it" which may be closer to
what Stephanie means is not to "identify" with or make something solid, a
permanent part of the "Self" when it is something you want to get rid of. I
do an energy work called Wave Work and I encourage my clients to witness the
sensations, feelings, thoughts that they experience as "impermanent, just
passing through. Very similar to the Vipassana Buddhist teaching that there
is no permanent self, just awareness and a constant stream of rising and
passing away of experience.

Metta,

Suzanne

           
Received on Wed 17 Nov 1999 - 15:53:15 GMT