Hello all - please do not misunderstand. All of my work is about taking
personal responsibility for everything (except as a child when one has
little or no control). If you've read my intake form, you'll know that I
give homework, and I don't take any huff. If you promise to do it, you
must do it, or I will send you home. This is taking responsibility. It is
about having integrity - doing what you say you are going to do. And
taking responsibility for your life since it is you who are manifesting
it. I believe much power can be derived from the act of taking
responsibility! Sooo.....I'm very much about taking personal
responsibility and not being a victim.
However, I also feel that if everything is energy (which I believe it is),
and we find it difficult to give up something we "own" (which we do), then
maybe if we don't "own" the energy - and we disassociate ourselves from the
problem (by calling it "this" instead of "my,") maybe it is easier to give
the problem up. As I see it, this whole thing is a challenge of
semantics. And I am the first to say that we must speak the language of
the client. I've preached this many, many times. However, if we can put a
new spin (a paradigm shift, if you will) on the issue at hand, why not, if
it works for the client?
Remember, please, that everything I say is my opinion. Again, if it does
not resonate for you, change it to suit your belief structure, or simply
leave it behind. I'm sure there's something that you think I do that is
worthwhile, otherwise you probably would not have invited me to England : - )
As Gary Craig always says, we are the ground floor of a healing high
rise. And I'm the first to admit that I am always learning and
growing. If this idea stops working for my clients, I will stop using
it. Meanwhile, it seems to be working quite nicely. So I'll keep it for now.
Peace.
Stephanie
At 11:33 PM 11/17/99 +0000, you wrote:
> >I feel that our job is to find that feeling/statement and to work with it
>cleanly, not polluting it in any way.
>
>This is fascinating and shows how different approaches are amongst different
>forms of therapies.
>
>What Chrissie writes is of course perfectly correct in that you need the
>client's very own words to access the right parts of the neurology or
>body/mind if you will where the negative emotions are stored that we seek to
>release through tapping.
>
>Going beyond that, in NLP, we are encouraged to get the client to be "at
>cause" regarding their problems, and what they say is used as a diagnostic
>tool to tell you where in their thinking they're stuck- this stuckness being
>the reason for them having the problems they came with in the first place.
>
>I have found, interestingly enough, that when the client has released a
>negative emotion successfully (by using an opening statement OF THEIR OWN
>WORDS AND TOTALLY RIGHT FOR THEIR OWN MIND) they will change their
>perception and move into being more "at cause", or, owning the problem, if
>you will.
>
>It is my personal opinion that someone who hasn't owned their problem yet
>and still attributes it to an outside agency of any kind ("My dad's
>nastiness made me have this problem - it's all his fault, I'm a victim, and
>I sit here and suffer") still has a lot of work left to do. I certainly
>wouldn't want to encourage them in their misconception by deliberately
>placing the cause of the problem outside themselves. If they start from that
>point, that's fine. Chrissie's clean language approach will then hopefully
>shift them to the empowered position of owning not just the problem, but
>therefore also the solution.
>
>best,
>
>Silvia
Received on Wed 17 Nov 1999 - 18:26:55 GMT
