[MT] Re: Network: Creating the Perfect Statements, II

In a message dated 11/17/99 10:41:04 GMT Standard Time,
ray_at_rapport.softnet.co.uk writes:

>
> > Please don't own your problem! (People don't like to lose stuff - which
> is
> why it is so difficult to "lose" weight). Replace "my" statements with
> "the" statements (ex: "my" weight, "my" phobia, and "my" fear becomes
> "the" weight, "the" phobia, and "the" fear, etc).
>
> I have a serious problem with this approach. If you don't own your own
> problems, who on Earth does?
>
> If people don't like to lose things, surely one could re-phrase the
> statements into something more appropriate and yet keep responsibility for
> the problem where it rightfully belongs - ie inside someone's very own
> neurology.
>
> Comments please
>

I prefer to use neither "my" nor "the" for the reasons stated above, but use
"this" leaving the clients to place the ownership of the problem where they
will.

Regards

Dr Tam

           
Received on Thu 18 Nov 1999 - 00:28:15 GMT