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Mastering EFT Language Skills

by Peter Delves

Mastering EFT Language Skills

AMT Trainer Peter Delves writes: "When using EFT some practitioners grapple with what words to use. Although the basics are addressed in standard trainings, this article describes one of the ways you can create language patterns to help the effectiveness of EFT. It is just one of the approaches which we will be covering at the special one day EFT Language Skills Masterclass on the 5th September."

Read on for the full article...

Words are important

I like words. I think they are important and I think they are powerful. But I would say that wouldn’t I? My background is in hypnotherapy and NLP before discovering meridian energy therapies 12 years ago. The importance of language in EFT is not confined to the set-up statement. It also includes the use of powerful and incisive questions, reframing issues prior to tapping, language patterns for specific emotions, phrases for different personality styles, and how to conclude a session positively, even if the issue hasn’t been resolved yet.

A simple technique

Therefore one of the elements we will be covering at the Masterclass will be what to say at each point. A technique that I have developed is to create a simple story structure while tapping. As Aristotle identified, a story needs a beginning, middle and an end. I find that I can use this structure using only seven points (after the set-up) i.e. from the eyebrow down to the under-arm point.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say a client has a fear of speaking in public and they have to give a presentation.

With skilful questioning you get to the heart of the issue which is “terror of making a fool of myself”. The set up statement is straight forward enough with either the karate chop or sore spot...

“Even though I have this terror of making a fool of myself I......accept myself”.

Then tap on the following points with such phrases as:

Eyebrow point: “This terror of making a fool of myself” (Beginning: Once more acknowledging the problem).

Side of eye: “Which is intended to protect me” (Still at the beginning/acknowledgement stage but covering positive intention which may have been discussed prior to tapping).

Under eye: “But does not serve this purpose” Middle or bridge. Starting to question it.

Under nose: “I could keep creating this terror if I wanted to” (Middle/bridge continued. Invites a polarity response of “yes but I don’t want to” as well as taking responsibility for “creating” it which implies you can let it go.

Chin: “But I choose to let it go and reserve it for situations when I really need it, such as if I’m in mortal danger, instead of simply talking to people”. Ending. The word “but” diminishes what preceded it enhances what follows it. Holding the contrast of the two situations helps to let the feeling go from the less threatening situation while offering reassurance about still having access to the feeling if really required.

Collarbone: “Because I want to feel relaxed and confident giving presentations”. (Ending – offering justification for letting it go).

Under arm “Which means I can be true to myself and my audience”. (Ending on something even more positive such as a powerful value which you may have identified pre-tapping or just introduced here anyway).

Points to remember

1.You can hang around on points and say a lot more if necessary. In other words you don’t have to get all the words in just a few taps. However I prefer not to overdo it. I find that one or two sentences are enough. After that there is a danger of diluting the effect. That's not to say there aren’t times when it is not of value to say much more on a point. Just not with this technique.
2.I think using words while tapping is not about trying to install affirmations. Rather it’s about having some useful levers to help move a heavy load.

Peter Delves will be running an EFT language Skills Masterclass on Sunday 5th September 2010 in Warwickshire UK. More details: at www.delves.co.uk or call Peter on (01926) 856746

Posted Aug 13, 2010 by Peter Delves   
Peter Delves

Peter Delves

 


Peter Delves
MCIPD, MNCH (Acc.), CTAMT


Q. You seem to provide a diverse range of services. How do they all fit together?

Peter. Well I divide my time between three areas, notably seeing private clients, professional training for therapists and delivering in-house training courses for organisations. The common theme throughout is enabling people to overcome limitations and develop skills. So while it may seem a diverse range it all does fit from my point of view!

Q. How did you arrive at doing what you do now?

Peter. About 20 years ago I was working as a Human Resources Manager for a Social Services Department. My role included ill-health visits for staff who were on long-term sickness absence due to stress. In many cases they had to retire on ill-health grounds. I felt at the time that there were other options available to help people recover and started to explore the whole nature of stress and different approaches to resolving it – even if they didn’t seem conventional.

This led me to taking training in clinical hypnotherapy and subsequently joining the National Council for Hypnotherapy. After qualifying I set up my private practice and continued to learn new techniques and approaches, notably NLP (Neuro-Linguistic programming). My human resources background (CIPD qualified) had equipped me with training skills and experience and a former employer, Leicester City Council, approached me to run a stress management training course for them.

It turned out to be a great success and I have continued to run courses for them, and many other organisations, ever since. In 1998 I started to hear about new techniques which apparently were getting incredible results. These came under the umbrella of “meridian energy therapies” and I trained in TFT (Thought Field Therapy) and then EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). I discovered that what I had heard wasn’t just hype and started to get impressive results with clients very quickly. From 1999 I became an appointed trainer for the AMT (Association for Meridian Energy Therapies) and subsequently a trainers’ trainer.

Q. How long have you been practising in Kenilworth?

Peter. I’ve been here since 1999. Prior to being in Kenilworth I was running the practice in Leicester from 1990. In that time I reckon I've worked with over 4000 clients.

Q. What issues do clients see you for mostly?

Peter. Although I work with a variety of problems, the most frequent issues that I help resolve are anxiety states of one type or another. These can be experienced in the form of panic attacks, phobias and work-related stress problems. It is very rewarding when I receive feedback from people who find that they can be relaxed in previously threatening situations, whether that is in the workplace, social situations or flying in a plane. It’s also great to help people stop smoking too!

Q. How do corporate clients respond to your more unorthodox methods such as EFT?

Peter. I don’t always include EFT on my stress management training for corporate clients if I think they would prefer a more conservative approach. When I do introduce it, people are very enthusiastic. They just can’t ignore the results. Warwick University Business School even commissioned me to run stress management workshops based around EFT which was very successful.

Q. Who are your associates?

Peter. My principal associate is Julie Gallimore. Her specialist areas include delivering training to organisations in Work-life Balance, Stress Management Skills, Coping with Change and Counselling Skills at Work. She also provides career consultancy for organisations whose employees are experiencing change, or needing to develop skills.

There are other associates who assist me from time to time with the delivery of training in EFT and the other meridian energy therapies.

Q. How do you see your work developing in the future?

Peter. I am already bringing some new ideas to fruition. For the corporate world I am working on a training called “Working Smarter” which will be about updating time management techniques for the 21st Century to help reduce stress and be more efficient.

Another new development is “EFT & The Enneagram.” The Enneagram is a fascinating model of human nature which provides great insights into personality styles, motivation patterns and directions for personal development. One more area of work which I will be developing further is helping sports men and women and musicians to maximise performance.

So the next 20 years looks as busy as the last!

You can contact Peter by calling (01926) 856746 or by e-mail

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