Forms of Psychological Reversal

Forms of Psychological Reversal


From the book FREE TO BE HAPPY with Energy Psychology by Robert Elias Najemy
(Also titled Remove Pain with Energy Psychology)

Some emotions or beliefs which may cause us
to not want to let go of a particular emotion.


1. I have felt this way a long time and do not know what it will be like to be without this emotion. It will be like losing an important part of myself or of my life.
(We have become attached or addicted to feeling this way.)
Possible emotions:
a. Fear of unknown.
b. Fear of being different than I am.
c. Fear of not being acceptable to others if I am different.
d. Fear of loneliness.

2. I believe that I need this emotion in order to protect myself from others.
(Possibly through anger, depression, injustice, pain)
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that others want to hurt or use us.
b. Fear that I do not have any other way of protecting myself.
c. Fear of not getting what I want if I let go of this emotion.
d. Fear that others will not pay attention to me if I am not angry or crying.

3. I will lose my power or control over others. (Perhaps with anger, depression or dissatisfaction.)
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that I won?t, in any other way, be able to get what I want from others.
b. Fear that if I do not control them, they will control me.
c. Fear that I will lose my self-worth (or something else important to me) if I do not control others.

4. I will lose others? attention if I do not have this emotion.
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that others will not pay attention to me in any other way.
b. Fear that I do not have anything worthwhile about myself for others to be interested in.
c. Fear that if I do not have others attention, then I will have no self-worth.
d. Fear of loneliness.

5. I will lose my self-worth if I do not feel this way. (Especially if we are used to feeling the victim or angry in order to get our feelings of goodness, righteousness or self-worth)
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that I have no self-worth except when I am angry.
b. Fear that I have no self-worth except when I am done injustice to.
c. Fear that I will not be right if I am not angry or crying.
d. Fear of loneliness.

6. I will allow others to be free from feeling guilty or responsible about me. I will lose control over them.
a. Anger towards others for what they have done to me.
b. Guilt if the others are not guilty (someone has to be guilty - if it is not them, then I must be)
c. Fear of losing control over others.
d. Fear of loneliness.

7. I will need to take responsibility for my life.
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that I am not capable to handling life on my own.
1. Fear of loneliness.

8. In order to be good, I must feel guilty for what I have done. Thus I cannot accept feeling okay. A good person must feel guilty.
a. Fear that I will not be a good person, unless I feel guilty and unhappy.
b. Feeling that I must punish myself for mistakes I have made.

9. I will need to be happy - something which scares me.
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that if I am happy, something bad will then happen.
b. Fear that I do not deserve (I am not good enough) to be happy.
c. Fear that if I do not need others and am happy, I will lose their attention.
d. Fear that if I am not a victim, I have no self-worth.

10. I will have to recognize my self-worth - which also scares me.
Possible emotions:
a. Fear that if I believe in my self-worth, I will be egotistical and not good or pure.
b. Fear that I do not deserve to believe in my self-worth.
c. Fear of the power, which comes from believing in myself.

11. Others (you fill in)

These lists of beliefs and emotions are not in any way complete and we welcome your suggested additions to: ren@HolisticHarmony.com
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Robert Elias Najemy, a life coach with 30 years of experience with extensive experience in Energy Psychology, has trained over 300 Life coaches and now does so over the Internet. Info at: http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/introholisticcoach.asp
He is the author of over 20 books, 600 articles and 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony. Download FREE 100's of articles, find wonderful ebooks, guidance and teleclasses at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com.
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